I was delighted to receive an advance copy of Rebecca Eanes’ new book, The Gift of a Happy Mother. Rebecca has a way with words and cuts through all the noise to what matters most: your relationship with your child.
There are no fancy techniques, but plenty of timely reminders. I particularly liked this one:
“It’s never going to be perfect. It sounds like another obvious statement but I had some pretty wild expectations when I started this motherhood journey, and I’ve felt really disappointed to find that it’s never just right. I’ve found myself holding my breath, waiting for the next phase when they’ll be more independent or more self-controlled or more mature. I’ve held my breath waiting for some magical patience potion to appear or a day when a deadline doesn’t loom and the house isn’t a disaster zone of toys, empty juice bottles, and dog fur. I eventually had to exhale because I realized it just isn’t going to happen. There is always something I could be bothered about, always something else to wish for. The load feels a little lighter when I decide to find the joy in the chaos.”
Sometimes patience runs thin and the mess is too much. That’s life and we can let go of our held breath and give ourselves grace and find perspective. It will be OK.
Why is it important that mothers are happy (well, and fathers too!)? Because this quote is truer than true:
“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.” -James Baldwin
Sorry to say. But what’s the point of life, or having children, if the nitty-gritty stuff of life steals your joy? Ms. Eanes’ book helps you cultivate a mindful approach that will make family life a little sweeter.
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Disclaimer: I received a complimentary copy of The Gift of a Happy Mother for review purposes.
Here’s my review: “Rebecca Eanes’ new book, The Gift of a Happy Mother is the book we all need. One that lovingly reminds us that we must care for ourselves right alongside our children. This comprehensive look at today’s “joy stealers,” along with easy to implement strategies to get it back, will help you feel like yourself again.”
Sarah MacLaughlin is author of the award-winning book, What Not to Say: Tools for Talking with Young Children and has been featured in The Huffington Post. She brings over 25 years of experience working with children and families to her coaching practice. Sarah is also mom to a 10-year-old who gives her plenty of opportunities to take her own advice. She works with families one on one, in groups, and through online offerings.